The X-Files icon opens up about intimacy, vulnerability, and why women deserve to ask for what they want—on every level.
Gillian Anderson is baring her soul in a powerful new interview, expressing a deep desire to be loved not for an idealized version of herself—but for her real, unfiltered self.
The X-Files and Sex Education star appeared on Davina McCall’s “Begin Again” podcast, where she reflected on the impact of her recent book “Want”, which features honest letters from women about their relationships, bodies, and sexuality.
“There’s a version of a fantasy… but actually, the thing that I really want is to be looked at adoringly for who I am, and how I look. For that to be the thing my partner is desiring—not the perfect version,” Gillian shared with heartfelt honesty.
Anderson, 56, who is currently in a relationship with The Crown screenwriter Peter Morgan, praised the women who submitted deeply personal letters for her book, noting that their courage sparked far more than just conversations about sex.
“If I’m not able to ask for what I want from the person I’ve been married to for 25 years, does that have any link to why I’m not able to ask for what I want in the work that I do?” she asked rhetorically, highlighting the deep connection between personal confidence and professional empowerment.
She continued,
“I didn’t expect the reaction we’ve had. Women have come up to me saying, ‘This has changed my life.’ And at the end of the day, we’re talking about courage, really.”
According to Gillian, one of the most powerful themes throughout the letters was the desire to be seen. Truly seen. Not through the lens of societal expectations or romantic fantasies—but through the eyes of a partner who cherishes the unfiltered reality.
“There’s a lot of touching honesty… women writing about being seen,” she added. “That moved me.”
Anderson’s reflections are resonating with many who’ve struggled with vulnerability in relationships, especially women who’ve been conditioned to prioritize others’ needs over their own.
Through “Want” and platforms like Begin Again, Gillian is sparking a long-overdue conversation: one that encourages women to claim space in every part of their lives—emotionally, professionally, and intimately.
