I’ll never be faithful” – Femi Kuti speaks on failed marrriage

Afrobeat maestro, Femi Anikulapo-Kuti, has finally spoken about his crashed marriage.

The musician, who is currently in Paris, France where he is due to
perform at the biggest African music festival, went down memory lane and
recalled how he met and married Funke, his ex-wife and mother of his
first son. He disclosed the entire story in an interview with Dailysun
newspaper.

On how he has been relating with Funke since the marriage collapsed,
he said, “She is the mother of my child and we are very friendly, we
even call each other. At least, what I manage to do is not to let the
breakup affect Made first of all, and our relationship. Human beings
must fight.
There must be misunderstanding sometimes. It is now left to
us if we are mature enough to overcome these problems. To some people,
breakup is so bitter that they end up hating each other. I manage to
take my hatred and throw it away, and still respect her as a human being
and the mother of my son, and most importantly, for the love of my son
who needs his mother. If she too understands that he needs his father
then we must get rid of our misunderstanding. He was the one at the
church who said ‘please sit beside my mother’; I had to oblige him. I
could have refused because I went with my girlfriend, so I told my
girlfriend not to be annoyed and she understood.

When asked to tell if they will ever come back as a couple, he said,
“I doubt it. But you never know. You never know what God has in plan for
you. What if you say never and something just happens? If they told me
she would leave my house one day, I would have said it is impossible.
So, if she comes back one day, you never know what can happen. One
sickness can hook you down and she might be the person by your bedside,
what would happen? I don’t pray for it but you never know what God has
in plan for you. So, I am not the one that tempts fate. Right now, I am
content, I am happy, we are friendly and my children are also happy.

“Can we ever get together? I can never say no, because something can
happen that may be for good or bad and we’ll be together again. Never
say never! If you ask if I am happy right now, I am very happy not just
with my relationship, I am also very happy with my children who are
progressing, which is really my priority. At 52, I have experienced a
lot. If I die today, I cannot complain in heaven that I did not enjoy my
life.

Taking a stand on why he stands against ‘monogamy marriage’, the afro
beat maestro said “I grew up in a polygamous home. I grew up wanting to
be like my father. I grew up wanting to have many women; that was my
training. I will not tell you it is right or wrong. Because of the way I
was brought up, there is no way I can be faithful to a woman. I will
not even try it. I wasn’t trained to do so. I didn’t grow up with that
attitude. I grew up in the real house of Kalakuta where there were women
and I loved it. So, I wanted the same thing for myself.

Now, I don’t have the life of Kalakuta but I know that I can’t live
that dream and say I want to be faithful to one woman. I will rather be
by myself; truth, I love my freedom. I don’t love the part that I owe
anybody anything. Even the people with me know that I love my freedom. I
like to sleep when I want to sleep, if I want to go out I love to enter
my car and go on my own; I love my independence. I was brought up with
total independence.
When we got married, I told her ‘I will never be faithful to you’. She
knew one of my dancers then was my girlfriend. I have been dating her
long before I met Funke.” He revealed.

By Omotola Filani

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