Toni Braxton and Babyface Talk Love, Marriage & Divorce

Toni Braxton and Kenneth “Babyface” Edmonds are back together making music. The iconic R&B singers just delivered a new duets album, Love, Marriage & Divorce, Tuesday (Feb. 4), along with a special deluxe edition available only at Target with two bonus tracks, “Let’s Do It” and “One.”

To mark the occasion, BET.com got
Braxton and Face, who’ve known each other for decades, together for a
candid conversation and they wound up revealing things that they
previously didn’t even know about each other. Read on to see which one
of these stars makes a big announcement.

Babyface: I have a question I would like to ask you Miss, Toni
Braxton. How do these themes of love, marriage and divorce translate on
the new album?


Toni Braxton: For me it translates as a personal anthem. All
those things, s–t I was going through before I got married, when I got
married and unfortunately divorce happened. I found that talking about
it and putting it out in front was therapeutic for me, and it made me
become more creative in the writing and singing process, so it was
therapy, in a sense, for me. Which helped me be a better artist because
my songs were more personal.

B: So it was therapeutic for you?

T: Absolutely. What about you, Mr. Edmonds, how did these
themes of love, marriage and divorce translate to you on this new album?
How did you feel going into this project and calling it Love, Marriage & Divorce?

B: Initially when we went into this album, I didn’t know what
themes we were going to do, I just knew we needed something that was
honest and felt good. And I was working with Toni Braxton and she was
like ready to kinda quit and not really be in music anymore and she just
needed something to sing about, and one thing that we both could relate
to was being in love, being married and then divorce, so it made sense
for us to sing about something that we knew from what we’ve experienced
and that friends and family have experienced as well. I think it
translated well ’cause we were able to use personal stories as well as
stories from our parents — in your case — and it came out great. And I
think that people will pick it up and there will be themes on this
record that everybody will be like, “I know that feeling and I know that
story.”

B: I have another question for you Ms. Toni Braxton.

T: [Laughs] What’s that?

B: How do you know when you’re in love?

T: How do I know when I’m in love? Let’s see, I’ve been in love so many times [laughs].

B: How did you know you were in love?

T: It’s different feelings, but the most important thing is
that butterflies feeling that girls get. I don’t know if boys get that
but girls do. [We get] those bubbles in our tummy and we talk about them
[the men] all the time.

B: That could be indigestion, but go ahead.

[Both laugh]

T: But we feel good about that, and I get happy. I have this
sense of happiness and, I don’t like to say “sense of purpose.” It’s
more like this complete happiness like you feel like there’s nothing you
can’t do when you’re with that person, and you’re falling in love. The
falling in love is the best thing in any relationship to me.

B: Good answer. Just so you know if you ever wanna have that
feeling again, just drink a Pepsi! I have another question I wanna ask
you. Love can be a roller coaster at times. How do you keep the
relationship going?

T: La Perla helps, but my mom always said when you’re having
an argument or disagreement with a guy you can never have that argument
not looking pretty. You always have to have on at least some lipstick
because it’s important that he still finds you attractive, that you
still are the woman. So I work on those things that my mom taught me
being a girl, and I think it’s just important to keep it sexy. You gotta
keep it sexy. As far as communication, I try to be honest with my
feelings and to always acknowledge if there’s an elephant in the room.
And I try to make guys communicate. Sometimes it’s challenging with men,
they aren’t always as cooperative in telling you how they feel.

B: Okay, so keep it sexy. Don’t wear grandma underwear?

T: Exactly!

T: As a man, how do you know when it’s time to walk away from love?

B: When you just don’t care anymore.

T: And how does a man know when they don’t care? Is there
something that happens, something that triggers it, a series of things, a
conclusion?

B: When you can put La Perla on and it doesn’t matter.

T: [Laughs] Touché! Okay, fill in the blank on this statement, “Love hurts the most when…”

B: Love hurts the most when you really love. Sometimes you
think you’re in love and then you find out that you’re not because
you’re not really hurting. But when it’s real love, then it’s gonna
hurt. It’s supposed to hurt because it’s real.

T: So hurt always goes along with love? Poor guy.

B: Yeah, I think that’s part of it. You can feel sorry, but
unless you really love somebody and truly care, the hurt is not really
there.

B: Speaking of that, my next question for you is, when the love is gone in a relationship, have you ever stayed too long and why?

T: It takes a long time for the love to be gone for me.
Usually when I’m in love, I try really hard to make it work and
sometimes I get lost in the idea of society telling me how it should
work. I need to understand that sometimes love is just seasonal. And
that’s something I’m working on developing, but I’ve stayed in
relationships longer than I should have in the past. I think most people
have, because the idea of being in love makes you feel like you can
conquer any and everything.

B: I have another question for you and it’s an important
question. In 2014, today, is an emotional or sensitive man still
attractive to you?

T: In 2014, because I’m old school, I think an emotional and
sensitive man is very attractive. I mean he can’t be singing songs about
dolphins all day long, but a man that’s in tune with his feelings and
emotions is a gentleman, like guys that opens doors, like guys that
bring me flowers and tell me I’m beautiful, so I definitely want a
sensitive and emotional man.

B: What are some of the things that you won’t tolerate?

T: I won’t tolerate a man who’s disrespectful, calls me
“b—h.” Even if it’s sexy, I don’t like that new school way of being
“romantic.”

B: Makes sense.

T: So I guess the important question that everybody wants to know from you … Would you ever consider getting married again?

B: I’ve already considered it. I’m engaged, so yes.

T: You’re engaged?! I think your fans are gonna be a little disappointed, but equally happy for you.

T: What have you learned from your past relationships that have helped you this time around?

B: The main thing is being honest with yourself and being
honest with your feelings. When we’re not honest with ourselves we just
accept situations, don’t talk about them, and as you said, ignore the
elephant in the room. You better recognize there is an elephant in the
room and deal with it, because a lot of times the elephant in the room
is the one that you put in there, so you have to deal with it.

T: So what has Love, Marriage & Divorce taught you about yourself?

B: That it’s an ongoing thing that we keep learning, and we’re
never too old to learn. It’s something that you can’t just say, “Okay, I
got this down.” It doesn’t quite work that way. All of us are a work in
progress all the time. I think all three things have made me grow and
I’m still growing.

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